Update: We’re Living in a 1940s Household

We moved in the beginning of August from Bloomingdale to Capitol Hill. I previously mentioned that the move unburdened me from a burgeoning anxiety about this spot on the west curb corner near our house where people would drop things off without any apparent bulk waste removal schedule in mind. You can read about that anxiety here.

What I didn’t mention is why we decided to move, which, with some reluctance, I will tell you now. I mean, we live in a time of blogging and not only blogging, but blogging about feelings and personal happenings-which I have to say, and with an ingrained, perhaps situationally* generational point of pride, that I have, for the most part stayed clear of doing.  Though I did just invite you all, without batting an eye, without any hint of sarcasm, to read about anxiety, and specifically, to read about an anxiety of mine. Douglas Coupland would be proud.

Well, I might as well do this right and ask that as I lean closer to tell you my story, you lean closer, too.

We moved because one set of our neighbors were a nightmare. Terrible. Weekly there would be yelling coming from their house at 4am, a pitbull running amuck, then two pitbulls running amuck, cars idling outside our house at all hours of the the day…the list goes on. This could be the Stockholm syndrome talking, but for the most part, the main group of folks that lived in the house permanently / semi-permanently were–despite all we endeared–quite nice. They were chatty and interested in what we were up to. Upon hearing that we were moving, reasons of wanting to explore a new neighborhood given, one neighbor concluded, “well, I hope no one crazy moves in.” Indeed.

Not too long after the US Marshalls showed up at our neighbors’, looking to reunite someone known to stay there with an arrest warrant he or she must have dropped, we decided, “let’s get out of here, this party just got weird.**”

About a week before we were to move, we were robbed during a rash of robberies that took place all across our neighborhood. Luckily all of our stuff was boxed up, and luckily we had an alarm system.

One of the aforementioned neighbors, very concerned about our well-being, asked, like everyone does in robbery situations, “What did they take?”  I went through the list of things, and upon concluding my list, the neighbor asked, “Did they take your tv?”  I said, “No.  Luckily, we don’t have a tv.”  He scrunched up his face, his comment one that I’ve heard many times before from lots of people, “You don’t have a tv?”

“Nope.”

“…what do you do for entertainment?”

We’re now settling into our new house in a new neighborhood and things are great.  We realized after I answered my neighbor’s question about what we do for entertainment without a tv, one night at our new house listening to the radio, with the loss of our computer, we were mimicking a 1940s household with only the radiowaves, newspapers, books, and booze to keep us entertained.  I have to say, it ain’t such a bad life–this time of the 1940s.  Dinners that are thoughtful and scrumptious, books and magazine articles are finished, games are played. Lots of talking and laughing…I’m bordering on bragging, I know, but that’s also allowed in an age of blogging, right?

* Yes, I know “situationally” is not a word. Neologisms are glorious.

** Please refer to @Hallingpres and @Precisely, the two that introduced me to this amazing phrase.

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The 3rd book and hiatus

I “recently” finished sometime in 2012, I think in July, Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand, famed author of Seabiscuit (which is mentioned in Unbroken) and famed author of…Unbroken.  Apparently, whatever Ms. Hillenbrand writes is golden and I can see why.  This book is amazing, and I can’t believe it’s true.  I have ranted and raved about this book I think as much as I did while reading and after finishing A Supposedly Fun Thing I’ll Never Do Again by DFW.  Basically, to shut  me up, you have to read this book.

I received this book as a Christmas gift in 2011 and funny enough*, it’s a book that I don’t think I would have picked up on my own.  Unbroken was one of those books that I stayed up way into the night to continue reading. Running, sharks, the history of B-24 planes, WWII, survival and a whole host of other topics joined together by Hillenbrand’s great writing style. And, in case you were wondering, I did cry.  I also laughed and I’m also going to shut up about this book..for now…bwahahah. Just go read it.

Oh, and about the hiatus of the book project (I almost forgot). We’re moving to another neighborhood.  While I’m currently refreshing my relationship with Daniel Kahneman (sorry Cass**), and working on a few other books, the book project is on hiatus until I can recreate the scene in our new house.  That also means I will leave behind my anxiety about the documentation project…so that’s not wholly terrible.  And, let’s focus on another small detail I mentioned in passing: I’ll also be moving. As I surround myself with boxes and put  my stuff into those boxes, I have to say, funny enough, the process of moving is really not that fun.

* I say, “funny enough” often and usually, the situation I’m pointing out, ain’t that funny.

** Oh, Cass.

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The Second Book

How many times have I commented to Kelsey, “Blogging is so hard,” to which she’s responds one of two ways, “Truth,” or, “It really is.”

Whenever I feel the sentiment about the difficulties of blogging, I almost always think of First World Problems, and the thought of feeling stress or anxiety about a non-problem is enough to make me change direction and think of something else.

But, I have to be honest with everyone: for me, anyway, blogging is difficult.  Perhaps it’s my yoga practice, or my ability (I think) to recognize what is actually stressful, or actually a problem that helps me to remain pretty calm about most things most of the time.  But not this.  Blogging opens up an area in my brain that activates anxiety and stress.

I turn into an anxious person when I write*, but the trigger is very specific. It’s not the thought that people will judge my writing that makes me anxious.  You’ve all seen my writing. You know what’s up.  I’m no Jonathan Franzen, no DFW, or VS Naipaul, or any other male author that I like a lot because apparently I only read male authors.  Hmmm…

What makes me anxious is the scheduling of the stories.  The balance of letting everyone know when certain events took place without being so concerned with time that time becomes a focal point in the story.  In a sense, it is a fear of judgement that I describe.  All this to say is that I finished a second book for my book project.  (Hand clap, yaay.)  Great news.

But, what I got all anxious about was the desire to let everyone know that I actually finished this book awhile ago.  I just don’t remember when.  However, the thought of not mentioning that I finished the book “awhile ago” just can’t happen.  I have to let everyone know I’m not the world’s slowest reader.  I mean, I read this book soooo long ago now.  I probably finished it last month…or in June.  It’s not quite my literary snobbery I’ve mentioned once or twice before, because, let’s face it, I ain’t got nothin to be snobby about at this point.  So, what should have been a post about this great book I read has become a therapy session about my reading schedule and the inability to not letting certain things go unmentioned.

So, anyway, I finished this book** a long, long time ago in 2012, after the book on Cuba: Rule of the Bone by Russel Banks.

I love this book.  It’s another book that I found myself talking about a lot.  Ironically, I almost passed this book up, but a friend insisted I take it with me on a bus ride from NY back to DC to pass the time.  (What a crazy trip that was by the by.  I was not feeling all that great the whole bus trip and found myself thinking for most of the drive, “well, I’m going to vomit on this bus…that sucks. I’m going to be that person…vomiting on the bus.”  In my delirium, in between reading and trying to nap, when the bus stopped somewhere in Maryland, I didn’t know what was going on, so I packed up my stuff and got off the bus and stood around thinking, “Where the hell am I?  This is not Union Station. This is not my beautiful wife.” I quietly got back on the bus, and luckily only one person noticed what was going on. I sheepishly smiled at him and took a different seat and began anew thoughts of vomiting on buses and really trying not to do so.)

Anyway, I read up on Russel Banks and apparently he writes a lot about the working poor and their problems, often in a coming-of-age setting.  (The main character, Chappie in this particular book is 14, gets kicked out of his house and has a bunch of really awful things happen to him, but throughout the book Chappie maintains this foundation of good-person-ness that he certainly didn’t inherit from his family, and it certainly wasn’t fostered by his community.)  Banks apparently has received criticism for writing about the problems of the poor, as if they don’t have enough to worry about already.  That kind of criticism probably comes from people that are currently not, nor have ever been poor.  It’s the equivalent of telling someone not to stare at someone who looks different because of how it makes you feel, not necessarily the person being stared at.  I highly recommend this book and it would be great if someone else around me read it so I had someone to talk to about it.

* Truthfully, I guess I have confessed to a few other anxieties I have…First World Problems to the max indeed.

** update! If you’re interested in Russel Banks, my workout buddy’s parents have a rare and used book store called Clayton Fine Books and you can order his books, as well as a host of other amazing authors. Life is grand.

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Repository for Lots of Things, Including Problems

The neighbors, or whoever “they” are that drop off stuff on the curb near my house in Bloomingdale are very busy these days bringing stuff to the curb.  And whoever takes that stuff away therefore has also been very busy.

And, voila.  All this activity means I have a problem.  Let me explain*.

What was it, last week maybe, this television and suitcase appeared together.  As I rode my bike past these new items, I thought, “wow, that’s a big dump**.”

A couple days after these two things appeared, I happened to be walking by, minding my own business of course, when I noticed the suitcase was full of clothing.  In fact, a pair of jeans has tumbled onto the grass and due to rain fall, everything was soggy.  The scene was definitely…sad.  Sad to me anyway because,  similar to how Michael Douglas in “Wonder Boys” and, I think Robert Downey, Jr. (or was it Tobey McGuire [“take a bow, James,”]) created a whole life for the character Vernon, I envisioned a scenario for how this suitcase full of clothes ended up on the curb, now soaking wet, that wasn’t happy.  How could it be? The situation didn’t seem as though someone was just getting rid of excess clothing, and the suitcase from what I could tell was in pretty fine condition and it didn’t seem like something that needed to get tossed out.

If you look close enough at this photo***, you can see clothing spilling out of the suitcase.

It wasn’t when I conjured a sob story about a suitcase and some clothing that my problem began, because I will have you know that is perfectly normal behavior, but sometime around when I decided I wanted to take a second photo of the suitcase with the tv to get a better angle of the clothing spilling out.  You know, to really document the moment.  I rode up to the curb on the day I’d decided to take the second photo and came to a stop on my bike, I wouldn’t say with a horrified feeling, but something akin to horror.  I kinda stared at the grassy curb area.  The suitcase was gone.  I stayed there for awhile.  I concluded the situation by saying “bah!” out loud, (fist in the air) and continued the distance of 30 feet to my house.

It gets worse.

A couple days ago, these items arrived:

Television now accompanied by a corner of a bed frame and a lamp stand.

My problem continues, because just yesterday when I walked passed the repository curb, there was a box for an office chair with the other three pieces and I thought, “well, that’s pretty boring, but since it’s part of the documentation project, I have to take a photo.”

However, this morning, the box was GONE.  No evidence, no documentation of the existence of the box.

I have increasing anxiety about this curb: When next will something arrive? Why, WHY didn’t I take a photo when I had a CHANCE? (and staring off into the distance wistfully about what could have been.)  Thoughts filled with questions like, what parameters do I need to set for this project–do I take just one photo of each new thing and that’s it, or, like I thought I would do with the suitcase, is it best to show multiple angles?  How much do I care about the photo?

Why am I thinking about this repository curb so much?  Honestly?  I mean, it’s a problem.

*I find it amusing when people write, “let me explain,” as though a) people care to know more and b) as if someone was like, “wait, I don’t get it,” and then you’re like, “let me explain.”

**Meheheh

*** Looking closely at photos (and more, saying out loud to look closely) always reminds me of the American version of that movie, “The Ring,” when Naomi Watts is looking at that photo of the horse falling off the cliff and sees a little speck within the print and as she looks closer the speck turns into a fly she picks off the page.  Esh, creeeepy.

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Mystery Solved. The Problem: Who’s Gonna Clean it Up?

You’ve all been to my house. You know I’m not a neat freak. You know you’ll come to a cozy home, lots of food on hand and I’ll put a glass of wine in your hand while we’re hugging hello. There will probably be a few dishes in the sink and…I’ll stop there.

I keep the fridge comfortably packed, and the summer CSA ensures this.  Mmmm.

One day, I noticed the pooch licking the floor near the fridge and of course just thought, “yup, just like a lab.” and then I said to the pooch, “Hey! Come on! [clap clap clap] Move along buster!” He looked up at me uninterestedly while continuing to lick the floor. Oy!

That was a couple days ago.  I didn’t think much of it because the pooch is always on the search for food. His desire to located food increases even more so after he eats…it’s odd living with a being that doesn’t have the capacity to feel satiated.  Like, if he got into his dog food bag while I wasn’t around, it would be bad…*

And then today I noticed this:

You might not be able to tell what this is from this iphone photo. (My iphone is the second version ever made…it’s dying I think, but that’s another “story”.)  But, this photo is of a dried-up substance on the floor.  What you can’t tell from this photo is that this is the exact spot the pooch was licking not two days before.  What the heck? No. I cannot have this on the floor.  This goes beyond dishes in sinks and piles of clothing that I’ll eventually fold and put away…or truthfully I’ll just make an awesome, slightly wrinkled outfit from the pile.  Either way, the pile goes away, right?  Right workout buddy?

And then, shifting things around in the fridge to make room for some soup I just made, I discovered this:

The container of whey I was saving for smoothies…You might not be able to tell from this photo, but this container is empty of whey.

No!

* During a party at our house, while we were distracted by engaging stories and clinking wine glasses, the pooch did manage to dig his way into his dog food bag.  Luckily however, he got so excited by his find, what probably seemed to him an endless supply of food, the jackpot if you will, he almost immediately started hyperventilating and made, unknown to him, a very dramatic scene.  We pulled him away from his bag of food and gave him a bunch of hugs and tried to calm him down.  Showered with attention, for a short moment a head immersed in a never-ending supply of food, that’s one lucky kat.

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Book Project Update: I finished a book!

Social media helps us chronicle the passage of time so that, unless we journal or keep a detailed calendar, we might not have noticed the comings and goings of some things in our lives.  Not that these things are insignificant, but often, chronicling the waxing and waning of certain events  happens haphazardly if at all.

Specifically, I’m talking about when we start and finish a book.  Years ago I signed up for GoodReads, an online book club of sorts where you can tell all your friends what books you’re reading which ones you want to read, and which ones you’ve finished.  (And many of us, upon creating our profiles, front-loaded our profiles.  Of course I read Uncle Tom’s Cabin. In fact, I’ll write a review about it [probably with the same level of analysis from when I read it the first time, seventeen years ago.])

Basically, GoodReads keeps track of when you pick up a book and when you finish it. Like this book I completed last month and can display actively for my book project:

Cuba: From Columbus to Castro and Beyond by Jamie Suchlicki.  I started reading this bed book* May of 2011 and I just finished it May 2012.  My proclivity towards literary snobbery forces me to note that of course I’ve read lots of other things in the meantime.

Don’t be silly.

I think 2012 has been a slow reading year.

Technically though, because I lost my copy of A Supposedly Fun Thing I’ll Never Do Again by DFW (during a crazy New Year’s Eve trip with some great people) and had to read the remaining story via PDF, and therefore could not visually display it as the first book of 2012 I finished, I am displaying Cuba…in the second quarter of 2012.  Yes.

Cuba almost killed me.  Clearly.  How many nights, with only 50 pages left,  did I just read 2-3 pages even, determined to finish, thinking back to when I was first learning about the native inhabitants of Cuba…so long ago it seemed.  It wasn’t that the book was boring at this point–Castro’s dictatorship.  Contrarily**, it was a great insight into the motivations of Castro that I’d never read about before.  This  new knowledge allowed me to talk to my workout buddy about the status of Cuba’s foreign policy and tenuous global position (especially after the fall of the Soviet Union, I tell you what…the book is a bit outdated) and I could just feel the Cuban knowledge seep into my medium-term memory.  Hey, some nights, for lots of reasons, you only read 2-3 pages of a book.

* Really long (but utterly fascinating) blog post I wrote about Bed Books.

**I find that word kinda annoying I think.  Contrarily.

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Chair as Art. Art as Chair.

So, the air conditioner and the second chair disappeared and this little piece of art work showed up one day…

 

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Document This Phenomenon

And this arrived…how seasonal.

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Assumptive Things

On my block in Bloomingdale there are two entrances to the alley where some of us have garages.  The alley is a bombed out looking space, but I’m not going to get into that right now–just to say there are tons of alley cats in the alley, which I don’t mind because they keep the RATS away (a problem in DC), but apparently, because I saw one run across my front patio area literally 3 days after moving in, like some sort of deleterious opposite-day welcome party, the cats do not keep the possums away, and, can you blame them?  Possums are soulless creatures that you do not want to mess with, you just walk away, just walk away.

In the west entrance to the alley is a repository for lots of things.  Being new to the block I have no idea how long the curb has been a things-repository.  At first I thought the house immediately to the right of the alley entrance must be the culprit.  I realized I was making assumptions about my neighbors.  I’d like to think I came to this realization due to my Coro “What Is Going On” training–a training that helps individuals derive facts, not feelings about a situation.  But no.  No.  I just thought any one house, without being the home of a hoarder would not have so many things to toss out…and hoarders don’t get rid of things.  I assumed it was this house, these neighbors because the “first” thing tossed out was a tv–a really old wooden framed tv.  My immediate bougie* thought?  “They should get that recycled.”  It seemed normal enough–it seemed like a thing the people who lived closest to the tv on the curb would do.

The tv disappeared and then awhile later, another tv appeared, and then there were two tvs, and then those disappeared.  I would like to think I realized those neighbors couldn’t have that many tvs.  My assumptive conclusions about my neighbors held strong for quite awhile, and what I thought was, “how could they have that  many tvs?”

Since then, lots of things have come and gone.  I’m talking** mattresses, bed frames, vacuum cleaners–the list goes on.  And, a light bulb (that I picked up from the trash heap on this curb) went off: ohhhh, it’s probably not the work of just those neighbors…probably lots of people bring their stuff to this curb…

I don’t completely understand what’s happening: is this spot a communal dumping ground?  Where does the stuff go?  Often, the items will be on the curb for a few days to, annoyingly*** a couple weeks.  Clearly this cannot be coming from one house.

I then decided I should document this phenomenon.  Why?  Well, a) it’s apparently what “we” do****; b) my books read in 2012 documentation project is off to a s l o w start and I need to document something, because…see point a.

So, this chair happened.  Actually, a couple days later someone topped it with a vacuum cleaner but since this new documentation idea***** was nascent, someone snagged the vacuum.  Or, to not make assumptions, I can safely say the vacuum cleaner was gone one day.

 

 

A couple days later, this second chair arrived…somehow.

It’s nice to know that someone or someones (maybe not the person or persons dropping off all these things) has a sense of humor.

 

 

 

 

*I wax bougie.

** “I’m talking” said in the same tone as Kim and Cookie in the Outkast interlude. Yes, a trigger.

*** see *

**** You know, we, as in all of us. We blog, we tweet, we point things out.

***** So, I says to the workout buddy, “You know, as soon as I get excited about documenting this, ‘it’s’ gonna stop…”

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Why we think to our highest ability and work hard

Here’s the thing:

You just never know

And nobody’s perfect.

I also wanted to add this little section I just read from Pandora about Bill Withers because to me, this is in a simple form, what “it’s” all about: “Withers wrote ‘Lean on Me’ based on his experiences growing up in a West Virginia coal mining town. Times were hard and when a neighbor needed something beyond their means, the rest of the community would chip in and help.”

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